He's interested in hearing about my sexual discovery and asks a lot of questions. Sometimes he tries to understand patterns or the sources of my desire. He feels somewhat responsible for my hiding my true self for so long in ministry.
It's not his jam, but he might be open to it down the road. (We don't have any places like that around where we live.) We're not exactly the most sexually compatible, hence our open relationship, but I've been engaging in solo sensuality efforts more often.
Thankful for my therapist and resources like Polysecure which I wish I would have read in the beginning. ENM dating took a lot out of me.
Thanks for sharing your experience at the sex party. I really resonated with what you wrote here: 'I felt safe, but you never know how people will react when they feel rejected.' I imagine that must have been an uncomfortable context.
It makes perfect sense that you would want to have a partner there with you next time. It does seem that the vibe changes when you're there with someone. People notice and men seem to respect the situation / boundaries more. I'm curious, what was it like for your partner to hear about your experience? Is going to play parties something that he's willing to do with you?
It's been my experience with several types of sex clubs (Queer, BDSM, Event theme oriented, vanilla) that it is always beneficial to go as a couple. Primarily, you have a "base" person to keep returning to for comfort and familiarity. From there, you can explore and come back. It works much better than taking the solo route. Of course, as you saw, for men there are no other real options.
I really didn't have an option, and I didn't want to wait. (I've waited enough! 🥴) ENM was supposed to help, but I just haven't met someone with the spark and trust to explore with, so I venture on my own.
What could have made this experience more fulfilling for you, besides our gentleman losing his erection repeatedly?
What does 'connection' mean to you? In many of your 'introspections' you seem to be more outwardly focused than inwardly focused.
How could you possibly be contributing to the lack of connection you are feeling with others? Novel life experiences seem to be becoming somewhat generally more stale for you.
What blockages are keeping you from feeling life more deeply and fully?
How could you better connect with your own body, especially your pussy, to invite a richer experience?
He's interested in hearing about my sexual discovery and asks a lot of questions. Sometimes he tries to understand patterns or the sources of my desire. He feels somewhat responsible for my hiding my true self for so long in ministry.
It's not his jam, but he might be open to it down the road. (We don't have any places like that around where we live.) We're not exactly the most sexually compatible, hence our open relationship, but I've been engaging in solo sensuality efforts more often.
Thankful for my therapist and resources like Polysecure which I wish I would have read in the beginning. ENM dating took a lot out of me.
Thanks for sharing your experience at the sex party. I really resonated with what you wrote here: 'I felt safe, but you never know how people will react when they feel rejected.' I imagine that must have been an uncomfortable context.
It makes perfect sense that you would want to have a partner there with you next time. It does seem that the vibe changes when you're there with someone. People notice and men seem to respect the situation / boundaries more. I'm curious, what was it like for your partner to hear about your experience? Is going to play parties something that he's willing to do with you?
It's been my experience with several types of sex clubs (Queer, BDSM, Event theme oriented, vanilla) that it is always beneficial to go as a couple. Primarily, you have a "base" person to keep returning to for comfort and familiarity. From there, you can explore and come back. It works much better than taking the solo route. Of course, as you saw, for men there are no other real options.
I really didn't have an option, and I didn't want to wait. (I've waited enough! 🥴) ENM was supposed to help, but I just haven't met someone with the spark and trust to explore with, so I venture on my own.
Knowing some of your story, that makes total sense to me.
Trust, spark, and syncronicity are critical for a successful ENM lifestyle.
C'est la vie 🤷🏻♀️
Wow your legs are amazing! And so is the rest of your body(and mind 😘 from what I've read in your substack)!
Substack is getting facebooked. The slightly weird weirdos have arrived. Pretty soon the Tran-perv-pedophiles will be here too.
This is like the quaint early sexual revolution discovery articles. Still, it’s better than feminist rants.
What could have made this experience more fulfilling for you, besides our gentleman losing his erection repeatedly?
What does 'connection' mean to you? In many of your 'introspections' you seem to be more outwardly focused than inwardly focused.
How could you possibly be contributing to the lack of connection you are feeling with others? Novel life experiences seem to be becoming somewhat generally more stale for you.
What blockages are keeping you from feeling life more deeply and fully?
How could you better connect with your own body, especially your pussy, to invite a richer experience?