I read your piece about the sex club before this one, so I see you've crossed a couple things off already!
And I came to *that* piece because I wondered, "Do sex clubs exist? Of course they do. But... so... what exactly are they?" And google sent me your way. 😂 I'm glad, because we have several things in common.
I grew up going to church with the family, being heavily involved until about age 14. (We were a slightly more liberal denomination of protestant.) At that age, my family stopped going to church and I started going on my own, but I fell into the evangelical sects. *sigh* So that was pretty much my most formative years, and it lasted at least a decade. I'm still trying to unpack it. '90s purity culture was really something, eh? (Purity culture, in general, but the '90s were a special brand. Or maybe it just feels that way.)
Until just a couple years ago (if that), I thought I had no kinks. Now I realize I totally do, and I'm discovering more as time goes on. I've started my own list and plan to write more about them. It's funny you mentioned clothing, because I've added that to my list to. (Like body chains. But what do I wear with them that I would feel good in? That's body issues added to purity culture. Fun combo.)
I know you're still learning and experimenting, but I'm learning from you. Or maybe alongside you. Either way, I'm grateful for the company.
Oh, Georgie, we could go on and on. (Definitely read my latest "Delayed Communion" and "Growing Up Evangelical: That Time I Let My Dad Think I Was Looking at Porn Because the Reality Was Worse" from last year.)
I'm definitely no expert. The observation and analysis are of me and my interactions, and I'm so thankful for others who know this journey and are discovering what we kept hidden without judgment.
I'm planning on drafting an updated solo sensuality list for 2025 to continue the momentum. Would love to get your insight. Feel free to DM me.
Thank you for commenting and reading. It's a balancing act, a tug of war, and it's nice knowing I'm not alone.
Desiree, you need to try your fantasies & see which one you like the most, but from experience you might like about 10% of them. Explore, but you might need listen to the Rolling Stones” you can’t always get what you want” !!!!!!!!!
Desiree, you have listed quite few options. My opinion on that is , do whatever makes you happy, you might like some & hate others. I can’t comment on the yani massage, but i would say i had a lot of deep tissue massages especially after a long plane trip, & i really enjoy it, but never the happy ending ones!!!!. If i was you, i will stay away from the boob job. I can’t share my experience with the fake boobs in here, but my take is nothing compete with the all natural.
When the notice came in the evening, i thought you were going to announce that you have the winning lotto ticket that was sold in Oregon!!!!
This was entertaining due to the fact you want to open up, but without a partner in crime so to speak, you fear the unknown, not knowing the etiquette of clubbing on your own. The fear of the possiblity of being manhandled in a uncomfortable, unsafe, and dangerous situation. As far as the sex expo's I agree that going solo is risky, the lifestyle clubs, they have strenuous rules of etiquette, and no one, man or woman is allowed to inflict bodily harm or force you into any situation, sexually or force any unwanted touching.
If they attempt, people there will respond and remind the individual and report them to club owners or moderators.
Always a fail safe on premises.
How do I know this, I'v been active in the lifestyle since I was introduced to it by my now ex wife at age of 20.
If you ask members questions while at lifestyle clubs, they are more than happy to inform and introduce you. No need to feel out of place or unprotected. Most couples and single men and women will figuratively hold your hand and introduce you to people. But you probably already know this,
Thanks, Roy. I keep getting that impression that it's a safe place... safer than going clubbing in many regards. Will just need to bite the bullet and go.
P. S. Always make sure your husband knows where your going as far as town and if going to lifestyle club, so if you happen to get in an accident or car break down, he knows approximately where you are
What seems to be the common thread that people comment about the experiences at the clubs? And what is the bullet you fear to bite? Your obviously confident about your sexuality, confidence in appearance and intelligence. If you don't find what trips your trigger for an encounter at the club 🤔you meet others and can network. If nothing else there is dancing😋, usually a buffet included in fees collected at door. And you can bring different sensual outfits to change into as the night progresses and open up as you dance. 💋
People always say it's different from what they expected and that's a good thing. Assumptions quickly go out the window.
I think about the arrival and departure. I would have to change clothes. But mostly, I live far from Seattle and Portland (probably the biggest caveat), so there are more travel considerations (lodging, food, gas, etc.).
I read your piece about the sex club before this one, so I see you've crossed a couple things off already!
And I came to *that* piece because I wondered, "Do sex clubs exist? Of course they do. But... so... what exactly are they?" And google sent me your way. 😂 I'm glad, because we have several things in common.
I grew up going to church with the family, being heavily involved until about age 14. (We were a slightly more liberal denomination of protestant.) At that age, my family stopped going to church and I started going on my own, but I fell into the evangelical sects. *sigh* So that was pretty much my most formative years, and it lasted at least a decade. I'm still trying to unpack it. '90s purity culture was really something, eh? (Purity culture, in general, but the '90s were a special brand. Or maybe it just feels that way.)
Until just a couple years ago (if that), I thought I had no kinks. Now I realize I totally do, and I'm discovering more as time goes on. I've started my own list and plan to write more about them. It's funny you mentioned clothing, because I've added that to my list to. (Like body chains. But what do I wear with them that I would feel good in? That's body issues added to purity culture. Fun combo.)
I know you're still learning and experimenting, but I'm learning from you. Or maybe alongside you. Either way, I'm grateful for the company.
Thank you.
Oh, Georgie, we could go on and on. (Definitely read my latest "Delayed Communion" and "Growing Up Evangelical: That Time I Let My Dad Think I Was Looking at Porn Because the Reality Was Worse" from last year.)
I'm definitely no expert. The observation and analysis are of me and my interactions, and I'm so thankful for others who know this journey and are discovering what we kept hidden without judgment.
I'm planning on drafting an updated solo sensuality list for 2025 to continue the momentum. Would love to get your insight. Feel free to DM me.
Thank you for commenting and reading. It's a balancing act, a tug of war, and it's nice knowing I'm not alone.
Ooh, definitely going to give those a read. And yes—DM me! I’ll do the same as I compose my own list. 💗
Desiree, you need to try your fantasies & see which one you like the most, but from experience you might like about 10% of them. Explore, but you might need listen to the Rolling Stones” you can’t always get what you want” !!!!!!!!!
Desiree, you have listed quite few options. My opinion on that is , do whatever makes you happy, you might like some & hate others. I can’t comment on the yani massage, but i would say i had a lot of deep tissue massages especially after a long plane trip, & i really enjoy it, but never the happy ending ones!!!!. If i was you, i will stay away from the boob job. I can’t share my experience with the fake boobs in here, but my take is nothing compete with the all natural.
When the notice came in the evening, i thought you were going to announce that you have the winning lotto ticket that was sold in Oregon!!!!
Unfortunately, no winning lottery ticket, but I am fortunate in so many other areas. And yes, I won't know until I try. 🤗
This was entertaining due to the fact you want to open up, but without a partner in crime so to speak, you fear the unknown, not knowing the etiquette of clubbing on your own. The fear of the possiblity of being manhandled in a uncomfortable, unsafe, and dangerous situation. As far as the sex expo's I agree that going solo is risky, the lifestyle clubs, they have strenuous rules of etiquette, and no one, man or woman is allowed to inflict bodily harm or force you into any situation, sexually or force any unwanted touching.
If they attempt, people there will respond and remind the individual and report them to club owners or moderators.
Always a fail safe on premises.
How do I know this, I'v been active in the lifestyle since I was introduced to it by my now ex wife at age of 20.
If you ask members questions while at lifestyle clubs, they are more than happy to inform and introduce you. No need to feel out of place or unprotected. Most couples and single men and women will figuratively hold your hand and introduce you to people. But you probably already know this,
Thanks, Roy. I keep getting that impression that it's a safe place... safer than going clubbing in many regards. Will just need to bite the bullet and go.
P. S. Always make sure your husband knows where your going as far as town and if going to lifestyle club, so if you happen to get in an accident or car break down, he knows approximately where you are
Are you getting that impression from other people reading your Clavicle Romance or your own research?
I've talked to many people who have gone.
What seems to be the common thread that people comment about the experiences at the clubs? And what is the bullet you fear to bite? Your obviously confident about your sexuality, confidence in appearance and intelligence. If you don't find what trips your trigger for an encounter at the club 🤔you meet others and can network. If nothing else there is dancing😋, usually a buffet included in fees collected at door. And you can bring different sensual outfits to change into as the night progresses and open up as you dance. 💋
People always say it's different from what they expected and that's a good thing. Assumptions quickly go out the window.
I think about the arrival and departure. I would have to change clothes. But mostly, I live far from Seattle and Portland (probably the biggest caveat), so there are more travel considerations (lodging, food, gas, etc.).